Few people might have been familiar with the phrase "Manifest plainness, Embrace simplicity, Reduce selfishness, Have few desires." (Lao Tzu). Just a simple phrase but it tells about the generality of life. Being true and being who you are and groping with what life has at stake for you, thus, its what life should be.
We met people and often get interactions with them. Know them by the way they look, judge them by their style and praising them with what we see. We are blinded sometimes with the outside world. Its a known fact that first impressions should never last. We should always know someone better, not with just the first time we met them. Its so far-fetched to introduce yourself with just a plain first time meeting impression. Even meeting new friends, you should get to know them and go out with them more often and I know that is one simple rule to get someone's real status and to know them better than you know them than the first time encounter.
I am bounded with a circle of friends. Few of them are true and some of them are pity enough to be considered as my friends. I say so because I happen to get to know them better. Its not about bitterness, its about how I know them and not showing it in the real world.
Why do we need to pretend? Why do people always tend to hide some parts of their lives? Shameful parts should be out-spokened. It should never live within you. (Please limit subjects though such as personally hideous secrets that only a Psychiatrist should know.)
Learning about life 101: Lesson 1: Be honest. Honesty keeps you in track. YOU would never want people know your hidden secrets surprisingly. Its best that you have already told them what's there that they need to know. If you do so, then you will find out that their reactions will never be the reaction you are expecting. If they truly care for you, then they would understand and at the end ,it would only be a subject that is passing by to laugh about a little bit.
In our search for acceptance, we tend to blend-in sometimes to people whom we should not be blending with. Say we are worthy as plain individuals to go with people we have common denominators. Choosing our friends maybe one example. If you think you don't have what it takes to be in a group of girls who loves boys, then don't go and pretend that you love boys. It will never work out at the end of the day. It is not easy to blend in a circle in which you are not capable of what the circle can offer for you. Don't play a ploy co'z you will realize that at the end of the day you are still the losser.
Learning about Life 101: Lesson 2: Be true to yourself. Sometimes being who you are can put you in a situation wherein people are craving to befriend you instead of you befriending them. Its far more fulfilling than being the one left out. If you are true with what you are, then you are not playing with your deeds. Its who you are and thats what they would always remember about you. Say, if you can't do things they want you to do, its not cowardness to tell them that you can't. You won't simply harm yourself with what you cannot do. For situations like humiliation might be the outcome, it would be more humiliating when you are seen by them trying hard. Be true to yourself and let yourself know what you can and you cannot do.
In some instances, we are also subject for discrimations. Critics live with us. Thus ,everybody is your critic so be watchful with your deed, be careful with what has your mouth have spoken or they might find it awkward in the next time they wanna go out with you. Put limitations for yourself, your actions, your words. I have had a situation experienced wherein I was so chatty and my mouth was blabbering and was able to find out that i hurt someother elses feeling. Lesson to learn, "watch what you say". It was intended to be a joke but as we all know, we cannot always throw jokes that simple. I learned from it.
Learning about life 101: Lesson 3: Be careful. Obviously, this does not apply only on you doing your chores. Generally, i meant the phrase be careful with your deeds with your words and with yourself. You don't wanna be left out with because of such carelessness. As i have told you, i ahve been there, done that and it almost ended up a beautiful friendship. Sometimes its worth-knowing if you have exceeded your limitations coz you will learn from it but its far better if you have already stopped yourself from hurting some other else's feeling. We can say what we want to say and always remember that jokes are jokes but you should always choose the words you are going to let your mouth say. We can do what we want to do unless you have not stepped on some other else's shoes.
So many lessons to learn about life but in the meantime, let me park my keyboard and have some smoke break. I know i have to learn a lot still in this world and im going out to seek for it.
See ya on the next post.
"let it be known that since i am not your master, i am not your slave"
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